For most, discussing their sex lives at length with their parents is a chilling concept. But not so for Willow Smith, who opened up about hers where else but on Red Table Talk, alongside co-hosts Jada Pinkett Smith, her mother, and Adrienne Banfield-Norris, her grandmother.
On Wednesday's episode of the Facebook Watch talk show, the 20-year-old shared with both women that she is polyamorous. That, by the way, means having intimate relationships with more than one partner with the consent of all parties. Smith's hope is that, by sharing her experiences on the show, it will educate others on the misconceptions surrounding non-monogamous relationships.
“With polyamory, I feel like the main foundation is the freedom to be able to create a relationship style that works for you and not just stepping into monogamy because that’s what everyone around you says is the right thing to do,” Smith said. “So, I was like, 'How can I structure the way that I approach relationships with that in mind?' Also, doing research into polyamory, the main reasons why monogamous relationships – or why marriage, why divorces – happen is infidelity.”
Not only that, but according to recent studies, unmarried women live longer than married women. (Just saying.)
Smith also clarified that having multiple partners doesn't necessarily mean she's being more sexually active, adding, “In my friend group, I’m the only polyamorous person, and I have the least sex out of all of my friends.”
Pinkett Smith, having revealed an extramarital "entanglement" of her own last year on the show, with singer August Alsina, didn't bat an eye at her daughter's feelings.
“When you were like, ‘Hey, this is my get down,’ I was like, ‘I totally get it,’” she said. “Wanting to set up your life in a way that you can have what it is that you want, I think anything goes as long as the intentions are clear. You know what I mean?”
For Banfield-Norris, a.k.a. "Gammy," however, Smith's progressive views on intimacy were a harder pill to swallow. Somewhat defensive, she responded, "There are people that still enjoy marriage as it is today, I happen to enjoy being married even though I've been married several times."
That's when Pinkett Smith jumped in, explaining, "This isn't about changing a paradigm that works for people. This is about – " Finishing her mom's sentence, Smith added, "...giving people the freedom to create a relationship for themselves" and not following the expected "white picket fence" ideals.
Sure enough, Gammy then revealed that she and her husband Rodney did, at one time, seriously discuss polyamory and the different ways they could take their relationship.
Needless to say, the entire conversation is worth a listen – and if you can get your mom or grandma to watch with you? Brownie points!
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